February 27th, 2011

Friends don't let their friends and relatives find their porn, Salon XIX, and Lacks progress...

~Sunday~ This secret from today's collection at PostSecret reminded me that I've had a conversation about this with many a gay friend. I, personally, have no concerns at all about anything of mine found after I die.

I keep thinking about what my family will have to do with my dad's porn collection after he dies. It embarrasses me.

These "write-in e-mails" were included after that postcard:

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I cleaned out my ex-husband's apartment when he died suddenly, even though we had been long divorced, so his elderly parents wouldn't have to find all his porn and sex toys.

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I just messaged my best mate & told him to clear out our porn collection if I die.

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After my older sister died of cancer last year I went through her computer and deleted everything questionable out of her document files so my parents wouldn't find it.



I went into my office today for a few hours, and spent a good deal of that time taking my Gmail inbox to zero, which involved a lot of label creation.



We moved this month's salon meeting to Sunday night from Monday night to accommodate Anna's schedule, and here's this month agenda with my responses included:

Salon XIX
February 27, 2011
Sunday (non-standard)
6:30 PM, Anna’s Home


  1. The potential absolute rhetorical genius of the Phelps family. (of godhatesfags.com infamy). [John]
    • Read the Elizabeth Edwards press release
    • Consider the fact that they are not at all religious, but purely a hate group
    • The group taking up the battle cry against Westboro Baptist Church is none other than Anonymous, which for those who are not familiar with it is a loose knit; yet formidable, group of hactivists who have taken down more than their fair share of notable companies on the web.

  2. The Naked Granny Chronicles [Sarah]

  3. Thoughts on this article: Cameras in the classroom: Should we film teachers at work? I'm interested in everyone's opinion on this, because I thought I could guess everyone's opinion on that last teaching-related one about the cheating, and I was totally wrong. :-) [John]

  4. Do you delete dead relatives and friends from your contact lists? [John]

    • I have 3 voice mail messages from my dead aunt on my phone.
    • One excited about some photos I had made for her and my uncle for Christmas, one telling me that my uncle died, and another one about some more photos I sent her.

  5. Genitalia euphemisms [John/Anna/Sarah]

    • I like “down there."
    • I also like “junk” for some reason.

  6. Tax preparation strategies and processes [John/Anna]
    • I used Turbo Tax forever.
    • Last year I switched the H&R Block, influenced by, of all people, Dr. Dicks.
    • I can’t remember the last time I only did my taxes: I did Jeanie-baby’s for years, and I used to Rob’s and now I do Robert’s.
    • I will never file electronically until it’s completely free.

  7. Tattoos (Do you have/want one? Where? When?) [John/Anna]

  8. A Facebook page as a 675 project [Anna]

  9. Teacher's Lazy Student Blog [Sarah]

    • “I might think this, but I'd never put it on Facebook. Teacher no- no numero UNO!” ~Dr. Vivian Covington, Director of the Office of Teacher Education, East Carolina University and my sister~

  10. What's the biggest faux pas you've ever made with regards to someone's age or weight?
    • I once told a guy who had salt and pepper hair (and was totally-fine looking, which didn’t hurt) that he was my role model in terms of how I’d like to look when I was his age.
    • He was three years younger than me.

  11. Award Whores [Kim]



I met Joe down at Flex for scareyoke, but I didn't get there until just after 11:00 and left at midnight.

My reading is coming along nicely, definitely on track to finish by Thursday evening:

257 pages (78%) read, 71 pages (22%) to read