NC State University was on a weather delay today, starting at 10:00. I checked in with my boss at just after 9:00, which just made me nostalgic for "the good old days."
I was at the bus stop in time for the 9:45 bus, and although the CAT
system website said that some buses were running about 15 minutes late due to road conditions, mine was on time.
It was hot enough on the bus that with a sweatshirt on underneath it, I had to take off my ski jacket. The guy sitting across the aisle from me was reading, "The Business of the 21st Century
." A guy at the McDonald's stop loaded a bicycle, which was surprising only because it was a cold, rainy, slushy, and icy day to be out on a bike. The identical twins of Wolfline fame got on at the McKimmon Center stop.
I got a request at work today that just floored me, not to mention became the catalyst for a great big mess. I responded to it with all the calm and professionalism I could muster. 'Nuff said here about it.
We had our organization-wide holiday party, and I really wasn't "feeling it," so I didn't attend it. After work, I met Jen, Jason, Garrison, Nick, and Jen downtown where we ate, drank, and commiserated.
I'm a total sucker for a pun, but this one gave—even me—pause, but in the end I appreciated it:
My boyfriend of two years says that he will not ask me to marry him unless I take a lie detector test to pinpoint the truth about certain things that have gone on in our relationship.
I have been faithful and honest to him throughout the time we have been dating, with the exception of getting caught in some white lies about things that occurred before we were together. He says that if I have lied about little things, then I could lie about big things, and he needs to know he can trust me. I've always been of the mind-set that what happened before you were with your partner is not really their business and doesn't affect the relationship.
I refuse under any circumstances to take the test. I've made sacrifices and compromises to keep him happy, but his request is completely unreasonable, isn't it? Is it a sign of overall problems? What should I do?
—Am I Crazy?
Your boyfriend is onto something. Before committing to marriage, I think everyone should have their sphincter activity monitored in response to important questions. That way, you establish a baseline of trust. So surely your boyfriend would be willing to be hooked up to a lie detector and asked the following: "Are you a pathologically controlling sicko?" "Do you think of yourself as more of a boyfriend or parole officer?" "In your best judgment, would marriage to you be a living hell?"
I'm going to assume that you got caught in some "white lies" because your boyfriend was prying about previous lovers and you knew from experience that if you gave him any names, you would be mercilessly grilled. You should have just told him, "This is none of your business."
But as you've discovered, the longer you stay with a crazy, manipulative person, the more you lose touch with normal behavior and begin to doubt your own sanity. Your boyfriend has done you a great favor by insisting on the lie detector. This has revealed to you that the most important question to be asked is the one you put to yourself, which is "What did I ever see in this lunatic?"
I'm so funny. Once again this week, I thought I'd take an early evening nap and get up at around 10:30 or 11:00 and go to Trailer Park Prize Night. And, once again, I did the nap part.
Picking my holiday song favorites has officially gotten tedious, so I'm going to do something that's pretty much against my "preference," and that is not complete something I said I was going to do. There, done with it.
With that said, it was a fun exercise, and I appreciate the comments about the ones I did share over the last couple of weeks, and people sharing some of their favorite songs with me!